Has anyone every shut you up? I’m not referring to “shut you down”. If you’ve been shut down it is over one subject and their argument has rendered your defense mute. I recently was “shut up”. Someone in my life, whose opinion matters to me, pointed out occasions (multiple) where I’ve failed to act and/or respond in an uplifting way. Because I believe Plato’s philosophy that an unexamined life is not worth living, I value when someone I respect or care about holds me accountable for my actions.
Accountability should be an agent for positive change and growth as a person. And sometimes when someone makes you aware of mistakes you’ve made, it is wise to shut up for a while and process what you’ve been told. In this case however, I’m wondering if my response has been a shut down, as well as shut up. I haven’t merely shut up in regard to the matters brought to me; I’ve shut down from offering in service to others as freely as I’ve felt led to in the past. Which means, I’ve closed off the leading of the Holy Spirit and shut Him out.
Instead I’ve listlessly made agreements with ancillary lies. I’ve taken truth (the mistakes I’ve made with this person) and let Satan surround it with lies. The major lie is disqualification. I think this is a rather typical pairing. Your actions have hurt someone so you respond by playing it safe. If you don’t get involved in lives, you get rid of the possibility of making relational mistakes. And beyond that, if you feel regretful about your mistakes Satan can paint a broad brushstroke of disqualification over all aspects of your life. “Who are you to…?” In my case the “who are you to…?” has included “who are you to write?” and “who are you to minister to other women?”.
The agreement with the lie of disqualification is a disagreement with the biblical mandates to serve one another, encourage one another, and love one another.
“–let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and have our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”
I need to shut out the liar so I don’t shut out the God of all truth.